Staycation….

Summer holidays will be over in less than a week, Should I be happy the kids are going back to school? Am not really sure. The 6 weeks holiday went by like wind, it was swift.

What a summer it was for me, it was my best ever because…

-I started blogging which I have always wanted to do

-I have clarity on future projects ( I had time  to reflect and plan.)

-I started a project(not this blog)

-I spent quality time with the kids, we bonded, we laughed, we cooked.

-I spent time in nature

-There was not a lot of sunshine, and I didn’t complain, Yay! What an accomplishment! I used to complain a lot about London weather. I used to be a Debbie Downer when it comes to London weather but not anymore.I have learned to accept things I can’t control, and besides, it’s not that serious.

-I met some amazing people

Over the weekend, I was at Hayling Island, it was such a beautiful beach

 

It was really nice to leave London and go to the country side.

 

It wasn’t bad after all having a summer STAYCATION

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The longest journey….

I found this quote watching a documentary on Gaia, I finally (procrastinated for a while )subscribed 2 days ago and I have literarily binged.If Metaphysics, consciousness, and those that type of stuff makes you tingle on the inside. Check it out, http://www.gaia.com

the quote goes like this

The longest journey you will ever make in life is from your head to your heart.

How true is this?

For me, this resonates so much, I am very intuitive, I have always been,  (i think we all do)but learning to tune into that voice is key.  You meet people, and you get this vibe they are meant to be in your life, and 10 20 years later, you are still friends.

Learn to tune in…

Listen to your heart…

What makes you really happy on the inside…

Do exactly what clicks with you so far it’s not infringing anyone’s rights,  irrespective of the noise or criticisms.

Life is too short to be miserable.

I love you

Ms Sunday

I am an introvert(in a world that cant stop talking)

I put my hands up I AM AN INTROVERT! For a long time, being an introvert was not something I was proud of because I thought I was too quiet, too reserved, too weird, too different.

Less than a fortnight ago, I took down a bit off of my “ABOUT PAGE “of my blog describing how I would rather email or text than getting on the phone, I  said to myself,” that’s just too weird.,Most people will not get that”.

I was wrong. Most people do get me. There are millions of people around the globe, just like me, That’s right! Lol.  Weird, quiet, awkward, they are the ones that know the answer in class but will not raise their hands up, They like to hide but always get fished out in the end. Shout to all the Introverts in the world.

I remember four years ago, the makeup artist for my daughters naming ceremony asked if she could put my picture up on Facebook, and I  declined but later agreed for her to put on Instagram . when I saw the picture, the hashtags were brutal. Hashtag so hard, hashtag weirdo,  I was offended, but looking back now, that was just funny

-As an introvert, hey, look at me is not my thing, everyone likes to be approved to some extent, but I do not live on peoples approval. If you think am awesome, cool! If you think am not, that doesn’t still bother me. You can imagine how that comes across to the folks that want their ego to be pampered.

-I would prefer if you check on me via text to see if I can talk before you call so I can mentally prepare myself.

-I used to turn off my phone on my birthday just to avoid the non-stop phone calls, except this year 2017. I did turn off my phone but just for few hours.

-I can summarise a 2 and half hours movie for you in a  few sentences, how annoying could that be.

-Arguing or talking for a long time drains me out.

-Am often drawn to people with cool, calm nature.

-I like to go to parties, but not all the time, trust me, I can’t handle going out every weekend, it’s just a waste of time.You see why I wasn’t proud to be an introvert for years. People assume you are depressed or not happy with your life just because you want to stay at home 90% of the time when most people are out.

-My favourite sentence when someone drags me in a situation where I have to verbally defend myself is “I don’t care”, lol.

-As an introvert, sometimes I think I put other peoples need first before my own, but consciously practising self-love has helped me to adjust. I still care for others, but I watch out for those that are just out to milk my kindness.

I have accepted me, I have accepted my weirdness, I have accepted my introvert ness(f that’s a word), I am happily introverted.

I AM A HAPPY INTROVERT (in a world that won’t stop talking)

If you are a proud Introvert like me, check out http://www.intovertdear.com. http://www.introvertspring.com http://www.infjoe.wordpress.com You will feel at home, take my words for it.

Get to know you!

Accept you!

And the world can catch up with you later.

I love you

Ms Sunday

Who made these rules anyway?

In the world today, there is so much of monkey do what monkey sees. We do so many things without even asking questions. Following trends that someone, somewhere, started, and we call it “the in thing”.

Like a decade ago, mix matching coloured clothing was a no-no, until recently, probably like 6 years ago, “they” said now it’s ok to mix match coloured clothing, and they call it “colour blocking”.

Recently, my 4-year-old daughter told me she wants to have straight silky hair like me.Before then, I never for once gave my own natural hair a second thought, because I considered it as the kinky, harsh, not manageable hair that I don’t have to deal with, as I have always resolved to wigs and weaves.

As a black woman, buying an expensive Brazilian hair, Mongolian hair or Peruvian hair was NORMAL as I have always worn weaves since I was 18.I remember my first experience was my sisters naming ceremony, it was such a bad experience.

These days, I question myself, questions about why I  do what I do. Why do I spend between 250-300 pounds to buy some else’s hair to attach to my hair? Whats wrong with my own hair? How come I haven’t even accepted my own hair?Why do I dress in a certain way because it is socially acceptable? I like to wear black, but a lady told me once “why would you wear all black when you are not going to a funeral”.Oh, my! Who made these rules?

I had an experiment over the weekend, I have these pair of shoes in a different colour that I bought in New York over 2 years ago.So I decided to pair them with each other. Actually, it was my daughter’s idea, she thought it was a good idea to match differently.I agreed!

 

These were the notable reactions I got

-Some didn’t notice at all

-Some thought, Oh, you can pair shoes with different colour now.

-Some were like “what the bleep is she wearing.”

-Some couldn’t care less

-Some thought it was cool

Why do you do what you do?Why are you in that marriage?Is it to make your parent look good?Why do you wear what you wear?Are you trying to fit in?Why are you in that job or career? Is it to fulfil societal expectations of you. Some have taken jobs that they do not believe in just to be able to get paid to afford things just to impress their friends. How empty?Most people go through life without really asking themselves these questions, living their lives for others.

I believe it’s time to break the rules, It’s time to let go of societal expectations of you, it’s time to let “YOU” come out.

Personally, I have made up my mind not to let others define me.It’s funny how we allow the society to shrink us, how we let peoples expectations to mould us to what we are not.I used to be in the business of pleasing people, not anymore though. You want to be nice to everybody because you don’t want to regarded as rude or arrogant at the detriment of your own self-esteem.Most women have been killed by the man that was supposed to love and care for them just because if they leave the marriage, it will bring shame to their family(they thought). And some are enduring mental abuse every day because they don’t want to be seen as irresponsible.

Who made these rules anyway?

For me, as a born-again Christian, the Word of God is the highest authority by which I live by. And it’s all about being FREE, free form judgement, free from social expectations of me.Am free to be ME!

Am not saying you should break the rules such as speeding or committing an offence, NO! not all. But..

Be spontaneous

Be weird( be authentic)

Be you!( say Yes to you)

Say No! (when you mean to say No)

It’s your life anyway(Take responsibility)

Do you!

This life is not a rehearsal! This is it! Don’t let anything or anyone hold you back from being YOU.

I love you

Ms Sunday

 

 

 

 

 

 

When you start loving yourself.

When you start loving yourself, you realise, there no out there, or in here, you realise everything is interconnected, you start seeing everyone through the eyes of love.
When you start to give all of your love to you, you start attracting positive and loving people because your vibe is attracting your tribe.
When you start loving yourself, your circle becomes smaller, and relationships that are not serving your growth falls off without even trying.
When you start to love yourself, you recognise relationship or friendship that is not going to help you from the outset.

When you start to give yourself all your love and attention, you begin to trust your intuitive nature ;you start listening to yourself and trust your own judgement.
What you start to practise self-love, you are able to call people out when they are wrong, even if they are very close to you, because you love them and know they are the extensions of you.

When you start to give yourself love, you manage your time wisely, you no longer get involved in situations that have nothing to do with you.

When you start loving yourself, you start making time for your loved ones, knowing that memories and good experiences are so important.

When you start loving yourself, you get more optimistic about life, because you know worry and anxiety is not good for your health.

When you start loving yourself, you want to travel more, you realise life is short.

When you start loving yourself, you start to appreciate every little thing about yourself, knowing everything about you is unique and special.

When you start loving yourself, you let go of societal expectations and DO YOU.

-When you start loving yourself, you start eating right,you realise your health is wealth.

When you start loving yourself, you become open minded, you realise there are much wonderful in the world contrary to what the mainstream media tells you.

When you start loving yourself, you look forward to meeting people with extraordinary stories.

When you start loving yourself, you start to look inward for everything.

When you start loving yourself, you consciously manage who is in your space, you only allow situation and people that support your growth.

For me, practising self-love is ONE of the most amazing things that has happened to me, for me to overflow, i have to be filled first.Every day, I am watching me,consciously practising self love.

Look after yourself, look after your mental health.Know who is your corner and hold them dearly.

Give yourself your attention.

Give yourself the best of you, 

Spend quality time with you.

Shut the world out for few hours to spend time with YOU, you will discover you are the best thing that has ever happened to you.

Be your own best friend! 

Celebrate your awkwardness, your flaws(they aren’t even flaws anyway).

Send yourself flowers and postcards, Go on a date with yourself!(weird huh) Trust me, it’s fun!and remember there is no app to download self-love, you got to give it to you.

I love you.

Ms Sunday

3 WORDS YOU SHOULD BAN FROM YOUR VOCABULARIES

There is research in the study of Epigenetics of how peoples perception of themselves are changing their genes. As a Christian that knows about divine healing, I understand this.

If the way I perceive myself is able to affect my genes, it’s inevitable to use the right words to describe myself or things about me. Using the right words automatically conditions your mind, if I didn’t believe at first, but I consciously use these words,  I will start having thoughts in this direction. and what I think about, i bring about.

There are my top 3 words/sentences that everyone should ban from their vocabularies.

I CANT: Most people have crippled their abilities by using the word I CANT. Human potentials are unlimited, that’s not news.History has shown how people have turned their lives around by just deciding that they can do something.Henry Ford couldn’t have said it better” if you think you can, or cant, you are right both ways. You are the one that determines what is possible for you. You have the ability to do anything YOU decide to do.

 

I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING: This is so common when you are finding a solution to a particular problem, and you want to give up, but you want to give yourself an excuse to do. We want to justify why we gave up on a project or why we gave on a diet that we know will serve us in years to come. Funny, isn’t it? Trust me, if you think you have tried everything, you haven’t? There is a solution to every human need, the answer came with the problem.If you haven’t found the right strategy yet to solve that problem, keep looking.Don’t close the opportunity of finding the solution by saying you have tried everything.

(Photo credit )Gymaholic

IT’S NOT MY FAULT: I cannot over emphasise the importance of taking responsibility for oneself. Owning responsibility for your choices and actions.This changed my life, it helped me to own my power, the power of options that I never knew I had.  Most people always have someone to blame for why they are they way they are, if it’s not their parents, it’s the teachers or the government. You are where you are today because of YOU! It’s nobody’s fault that you are fat, it’s nobody’s fault that you don’t have a job, Stop the complaining and get up! Own your past mistakes! It’s in the past!  Owning your own choices just gives you this control that I can’t put into words. Someone said, “WE ARE ALL SELF MADE, ONLY THE SUCCESSFUL ONES ADMIT IT”.How true is that? It’s time to stop shifting blame and use it to propel yourself forward in the direction you want to go.

Your words show how you see yourself, and your perception of you is everything.You can start now by using the right words, and it will change how you perceive yourself.You have unlimited potentials, you can do anything that you put your mind into.

Take good care of you

I love you

Ms Sunday

Summer reading 📚

It is 4 am in the morning, I looked out, I was hoping to see the beautiful bright sky, but to my surprise, it was pitch dark? Is summer gone?

I set my target of reading at least 6 books before the end of the school holidays, I don’t think I ‘ve done pretty bad as we have 3 weeks left before school starts again.

There is a particular book that has been jumping in my face for the past 2 years, The 4 HOUR WORKWEEK by TIM FERRIS. It was as if everywhere I turn, almost everyone is talking about this book.So this summer, I decided to listen to the audio book, someone graciously posted it on You Tube,  I am definitely buying the hard copy in case it gets taken down.

In honour of President Obama, I decided to read this book on his birthday, my son asked why I still refer to him as President, as he is no longer the President of the United States.I tried to explain, but he didn’t seem to understand, but I hope to take him to Washington DC one day.

I am obsessed with Bill Gate, I am not going to lie, I go on his personal blog almost every week, you can’t blame me! Check Forbes list, this man is still No 1. OK, back to my obsession, Warren Buffet donating about $3.17 billion of his fortune to Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation brought about my curiosity.So, last week, I went to a shop and I found this book, I just had to buy it, and it was on discount, super great!

 

If you are curious like me, check gatesnotes.com (It’s Bill Gates personal blog)how cool is that? and also check him and Melindas foundation and see the amazing work they are doing all around the world, especially in the eradication of  polio.Polio is nearly a thing of the past because of this foundation.

Www.gatesnotes.com             Www.gatesfoundation.org

Above are other books I have laid my hands on this summer, I have at least 4 podcasts that I have downloaded from iTunes that I haven’t listened to, sometimes it seems  24 hours isn’t enough, but it is! Am learning to manage my time more efficiently to be more productive.

What are you reading? Pls comment below.

Sending you  ❤️

Ms Sunday

How to stop doubting yourself

We all have dreams and visions, ideas of products and services that will serve humanity, but most of the time, the fear of am I good enough?What if? We doubt and judge ourselves before anyone else does. I have been there! I have always wanted to have a blog. Actually, I had a blog in the year 2012 when I came across my favourite daily devotion that changed my life. I had so much to share to the world, I had to write! I started writing, but there was a voice in my ear, someone close to me. He thought I should be writing about fashion, makeup, or gossips, in the end, I brought the site down. I will share with you, few lessons I have learnt, from my experience that will help you on your journey.

(1) Stop living on peoples applause and criticism; When the only thing that brings smiles to your face is when you are applauded, am really sorry to break your heart.If you waiting on peoples approval of you, you might wait forever.And even if they approve you, they might turn around tomorrow and say you are not good enough. Why not put your whole effort into yourself and tell yourself you are good enough! You are worthy of whatever you want to achieve! Your product or service is worthy of the market place.And also if criticisms are what shrinks you, it’s time to get over it! Steve Job is dead and gone, the mighty Steve Job, people still write about him that is dehumanising, So friends, you have to learn to live independently of criticism or applause. If it’s constructive criticism, that’s helping you in the direction that you are, Good! But do not let criticisms and praise be your oxygen.

(2)The opinion of others: Other peoples opinion of you has nothing to do with you, In order not to doubt yourself, you have to give people the rights to their views, Let them own it! There’s so much quest for control in the world, don’t be programmed by other peoples opinion, A  few years ago, I told a friend I wanted to work in an office, a specific establishment, he laughed it off.He laughed it off because he had a different opinion, And Guess what! I worked where exactly I wanted to work.I didn’t allow his opinion to define me.

(3)Stop comparing yourself: As a content writer, that started writing over a month ago, How can I compare myself to the mighty Stephen King? that has written over 50 books read by millions around the world, That is just insane! Comparison kills! It kills dreams and visions! Don’t compare yourself! Own your cuteness or weirdness, no one will sing your song like you, own it! There is only Bill Gates …there is only one Olubunmi Sunday, only one of you in the whole world.A mentor of mine said, there is no comparison between the moon and the stars, they shine at their own time.

Believe in your dream! Believe in you! Give no room for doubt! Your playing small will not serve anybody, so you might as well stop questioning your ability and do it anyway!

I love you

Ms Sunday

6 signs you no longer self-sabotage

Self-sabotage is that action that can dwarf your personal development growth, It can be described as self-inflicting injuries on your growth, and most people do it without realising, Taking self-inventory of your growth is so crucial in knowing where you are at, to assess your growth in becoming a bigger and better you.

The following are few of my checklist to measure if I am self-sabotaging or making progress on my journey of becoming a greater and better version of myself.

  • Gratitude: Considering how un-deciding  London weather can be, I used to find myself in conversations discussing how horrible the weather is, how dreadful the weather is, how how how…… the list is endless. You see, I asked myself would I prefer to live in a 46degrees weather? Or live in London.The latter was my answer. What I had to do was shift my focus to what I can control, and it’s helped me a great deal.And every day, am grateful, whether the sun is shining or not.And when you are thankful, it puts you in an atmosphere of joy which attracts more things to be grateful for, which results in growth.
  • Time-management: When you are able to account for your 24 hours, knowing your time was spent on things that are productive, you are definitely on the journey of becoming a better version of yourself and not self-sabotaging your growth as you are increasing your productivity every day.
  • Self-respect: When you are able to look people in the face and tell them “don’t try that (bleep)with me”. When you are truly a genuine person, and you often give your all in helping people, sometimes people get it twisted and think “she’s cool, or he’s cool… and they like to cross the line.You have to definitely learn how to put your middle finger in the air without even lifting your finger, it’s called Boundaries, drawing the line. Letting them know, this is the line, don’t cross it.Someone said, If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for everything.
  • When you no longer fit yourself in peoples schedules: When you are in control of where you want to be, When you stop being available for everything and only make time for what matters, you are definitely not sabotaging yourself.
  • The power of association:You are a reflection of the people you speak to and listento,  the books you read, the information you open yourself to, someone said if you are smartest in your group, then you need to find a new group.When you decided to stop hanging around friends that only talk about how bad the economy is, or how wrong the government is, then you are on your way.
  • When the circle is getting smaller: I love this! You cannot fit a million pounds idea in Penny’smind, and like attracts like,and knowing your vibe is attracting your tribe, Your circle will get smaller, and the smaller the circle, the better.The ones that are meant for you on your journey, will always be there supporting you, cheering you on like there’s no tomorrow.

Be you! Do you! Stay committed to your dreams and visions!Take responsibility as if everything depends on it.

I hope I have served and inspired you.

I love you

Ms Sunday

 

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